Probe
“That was a very rich conversation about your leadership journey; what things do you need to let go of to move to the next phase of your leadership practice?”
Probe
“So what’s behind that decision?”
Probe
“Tell me a bit more about that.”
Probe
“What’s stopping you from doing that right now?”
Probe
“Say more about that.”
Probe
“What is it we’re uncomfortable discussing here?”
Probe
“So you mention you’ve had some challenges in your past relationships…would you like to clarify or explain…?“
Probe
“Tell me what you mean when you say you’re disappointed.”
Probe
“So you tell me you find this task difficult; can we explore some possible reasons for that?“
Probe
“Oh that’s interesting. What happened next?“
The Probe voice in its dysfunctional version:
Probe
Pressure
“Why didn’t your last relationship work? Is it because you don’t want kids?”
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Pressure
“I can tell you’re hiding something. What is it?”
Probe
Pressure
“Why won’t you talk? Why won’t you share?”
Probe
Pressure
“I couldn’t help overhearing what you were saying just now. Who was that you were speaking to?”
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Pressure
“How much money do you make?”
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Pressure
“So what happened in your past relationships? Do you feel victimised? Why is this such a problem for you today?”
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Pressure
“What is it you’re not saying?”
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Pressure
“So what is going on with you and the Finance Manager?”
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Pressure
“And why weren’t you at work yesterday? I heard some rumours.”
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Pressure
“Next question, what political party do you support?”